Lately I have been feeling pretty confident that I was exiting “Survival Mode” and moving into a more comfortable approach to parenting, so today I decided a new tactic was worth exploring: gentleness. In every reminder, I used the gentle voice of the Holy Spirit. (It had to be Him since there is very little about me that is gentle). When the kids would ask me a question, I’d respond nicely, calmly, almost in a whisper. When it came time to get Ginger4 ready for preschool, he looked at me in wonderment, amazed I hadn’t yelled at him that we were running late or reminded him that he can’t find his shoes because he failed to put them away the night before. He came to me with a concerned look and asked me if I was feeling okay. Then he yelled at me because we were late to school. Oh, the irony! I suppose all my screaming does this survivalist some good from time to time.
I am not sure which is more embarrassing — Ginger3 announcing (in the grocery store check-out) we’re camping for spring break because “we’re a bunch of hillbillies,” or Ginger4 asking, after a dip in the pool, “Mom, do we need to take a shower after this, or does this take care of it?” (For the record, “this” took care of it).
The Littlest Ginger has had his fair share of disappointments recently, but the biggest one happened last night when he had his first ever soccer practice (Thanks, Mother Nature!). We were thrilled for him– he has been waiting for this moment forever. When he arrived, he discovered that there was no goalie in his instructional age group. Tears ensued, and Jack was angry that we had signed him up to play in this league, saying, “It’s not real soccer if there’s no goalie!” I thought his disappointment would subside with time, but I thought waaay wrong. He is still upset, a day later. I think it’s humorous the number of times I anticipate something will be fun and exciting and my kids make it into something else.